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Her mother must have been so desperate to escape that marraige, been with a man so bad she was willing to take her chances in a world new to her, most likely with not much money or friends, did the best she could with what resources she had at the time.
I bet she had to do hard things, like work hard at low paying jobs and maybe even learn a whole new language.

How sad and misrerable she must have been. I bet she cried herself to sleep for many years AND, did her best ( in the way she knew best) to make sure NONE of her children EVER are backed into a place that they will have to be so desperate, as it must have been a hard, lonley and very unpleasnt place for her mother.

It must have been very hard for her mother, without a doubt ... but the choice she made, was the very well thought out and best soultion to limited options she had, all very unappealing and hard.

Have you ever thought about encouraging YOUR wife to stop work and persue her education? I bet it would not only result in a lower stress and highrer paying job FOR HER but also afford her and YOU
more options ( like hiring a housekeeper for one)

should you both agree to end the marriage later, at least you can spare her the many fears her mother maybe UNWITTINGLY put in your wifes head.... and ensure she is in a better position to raise happy, healthy, well adjusted kids, which are your kids too
only one kid now from what I gather.
I hope you are using birth control as just about anyone can incorperate 1 kid into their lives
but 2... is a FAR different and very much more extreme lifestyle.
What are you going to do then?
It does not sound from what you write, you could handle any more... would be so unfair to the kids

and with the ease to obtain birth control these days
( maybe ??? unlike the days of her mother) There should be no reason to
add more stress to an already stressful marriage, more so one that concerns GENERAL HOUSEHOLD WORK !