justean

most women are the backbones of a relationship. name me a woman that isnt.
can you stay with a family member?
as for your daughter.
i can only tell you from my experiences.
please bare in mind my hubby and i have split many times over the years.
10 months, 3 months, 4 months.
i actually see them as a much needed break from eachother. emotions run high in each of these breaks, but they did not harm.
each time out was for a different reason. stopped loving eachother, stress, infidelity.
we have found in the instances of separation, when we didnot tell our children, they actually sensed it more, and school issues arose.
but on the other occasions we told our children and that of the latest issue with hubby one night stand.
i actually told my children, not to hurt them. but for the issues of why i was so hurt and so angry. and why i was short tempered with them. that way they could tell me, if i was being unreasonable at times.
we actually gave the children the decision on our relationship this time.
basically do you want mum and dad to argue "no"
do you want mum and dad to be "happy"yes.
they wil take sides, its normal for a child to do that.
but we allowed the children what days they wanted dad to call.
it was so much more open.
and if child does not want to be with you or him at times, just dont push, let her take control.
most women are in your same boat. its not even about the grass being greener on the other side. like you say you just want a normal happy family life.
who doesnt?