swedish

Why not talk to him but instead of putting him on the defensive (where he feels the need to blame you) put a lot of thought into how you say what you say so that you convey how you are feeling.

I'm feeling as if there is no love left in our marriage, and I mean in both directions. There are a few times in my life that I have really needed you by my side and I felt alone and unsupported. It has made me grow to resent you. I feel, by the way that you easily snap at me, that you are annoyed by me or resent me as well. I think we are at a point where we have been together for so long that we take each other for granted and I think we are at a critical point in our marriage. I am having thoughts of leaving because I can't change this on my own and I'm not sure if you want to. It's not what I want. I want our family together and I want to feel loved and supported by you, but at this point I don't see that happening unless we both go to counseling and try to make our marriage stronger.

Something that will let him know you are serious. See if you get any positive response and go from there. If he tries to push blame as to why you are where you are, just listen, don't argue his points but repeat that you feel you've been going in circles with these issues and either counseling will help you both work through them or it won't.

Just an idea.