crazybunnie25

I agree with Swedish "Forget the other man...learn to be proud of the hard-working mom you are and let that be enough...until some day you meet someone worthy of you."

Also agree with Foolz1 "sounds like you both have serious problems. While drinking is certainly a problem, infidelity, in my opinion, is just as bad or worse. Besides, it sounds as if the other man is no better. Even if the Other Man were perfect, it is still WRONG! Stop cheating on your husband"

You need to approach your husband about his problems and tell him he needs to get help or the relationship between you two is going to end horribly.
If you have to, talk to his parents. Open up to them. They are by the way your parents too.

Its hard to ask for help, but you have to, if you want things to change.

As for your other man. I know the feeling of wanting someone who can say things to make you feel like you are on top of the world. A drug you can not stop doing.
BUT YOU MUST STOP!
Occupy your time with your daughter if you have to. When he pops in your head, think about your daughter. I'm sure she doesn't want mommy and daddy to fight and split.

Find other things to do, but get away from the other man.

If you can't think of anything else to do, I'm sure everyone here can help you on what to do to stop thinking about the other man.