swedish

Losing your patience will most likely cause him to shut down/go on the defense so don't have the conversation with the end result of wanting him to respond to you in an understanding way...you kinda know it's not gonna happen before you start talking...You want him to get the message that you are serious...only way to do it is to stay calm and remember the purpose for you speaking is for him to hear what you have to say. Don't focus on his response if it is negative. Focus on what you need to get from him...do you want to go to counseling, get a divorce, separate, etc. and none of the above is not a choice.