dbj1971

Brokenfrag,

Don't listen to the load of garbage about nice guys finishing last. Somehow, in our twisted world, the notion of being nice has been equated with being weak. You can be strong and nice, confident and nice. I think there is a fundamental character flaw in someone who is drawn to a "bad boy" or "bad girl." I would go further and say that a real man or woman, who is mature, would appreciate someone like yourself. Why would anyone want someone who's dangerous?
Not to be Freudian, but I wonder if some people subconsciously have self-esteem issues and don't consider themselves worthy of someone who is nice, so they are drawn to someone whom they think mirrors their own self-worth. IE, I'm not worthy so I should be with a jerk. I also believe there are people who are genuinely attracted to jerky people. They are taught by society that there is a certain edginess to so-called bad boys. However, there is a lot of baggage that goes with that. But, I know, when it's all new the person only sees the excitement or draw of it. The first time he calls her a "b**ch" or tries to hit her, the bad boy probably won't be so sexy.
No one person can really change another, just like you can't make a leopard change its spots.

Remember too, that there are immature girls and boys all over the place in women's and men's bodies. A woman who spurns the niceness of you and goes with a jerk isn't really a woman. What is this, the 8th grade? Sometimes people grow in years but their maturity level is stuck somewhere in early adolescence.

Niceness isn't weak, unattractive, or un-sexy. Be true to yourself. What is really strong is staying true to yourself and being who you are, not letting the crappy opinions of immature, immoral, and *****mongering people tell you otherwise.

The reason it seems that nice people finish last is only because the jerky people sometimes get instant gratification, but in the long run they really lose. Sooner or later, the piper must be paid. I don't believe in karma, per se, but in Christianity we have a belief from the Bible that basically says what goes around comes around (it actually says something like, Be not decieved; God is not mocked; whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap).

It takes more character, more STRENGTH to stay nice in the face of such jerkiness and adversity than it does for some jerky dude who thinks he's the bee's knees to be jerky. I mean, come on, how hard is it to be a jerk? It's much harder to be nice.

Real women and men will agree with me. The rest, well, I sincerely hope you boys and girls grow up some day and at least catch up with your age level.

DJ