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Old 11-23-2009, 08:43 AM   #4 (permalink)
effess
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Default Re: struggling on how to make things right

As a update to what is going on with me. Day by day, I feel slightly more normal. So far, my wife hasn't pressed for details, which I find surprising, but then again, her whole reaction to this I have found surprising. She's told me a few times since this has all come out that "she feels relieved" cause now she knows the truth and the problems we were experiencing weren't her fault. And now that everything is in the open, we can get through it and get stronger (she's quite a woman, I know I did something right by marrying her).

Like I said before, the fact that she doesn't know some of the more dirtier details bothers me, I wonder if she'd be so forgiving if she knew the dirt - but at the same time, will knowing that help? I've told the the major facts as she has asked them, and haven't lied about them. I don't know what I'll do if she continues to ask questions. Again, I don't want to lie, but I've come to believe that her knowing the dirt won't help anything and will skew her view of what happened.
I wish I could hit the rewind button, and make it all go away, but so is life. I can only learn from this and hope my marriage ends up stronger in the long run.
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