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Following myGut · 11-23-2009, 10:26 AM

I have suspected for a few (12) months that my H has been having an affair and I've turned a blind eye for various selfish reasons, but this weekend I finally did some digging and here is what I found:

1. He has been involved with a woman since last December.
2. They see each other at least 1-2 times a week.
3. They speak every day and email/text all day.
4. He started seeing a therapist in August. She knows about the therapy and he never told me about it. (I noticed another thread where a woman was upset that her H didn't tell her about his therapy and our stories are very similar)
5. He has started slowly and subtly moving things (his clothes, his books, his electronics, etc.) to our summer home.

Now I acknowledge that all these signs point to him leaving me, but he agreed to a family vacation (us and our 4 children aged 18-24yrs) over the xmas holidays. So, if he was leaving me, why would he take a family holiday with me and our kids?

Things have not been good in our marriage for a long time (probably a decade) and we've sort of gotten by just putting on a happy face for the outside world. He works a lot, I'm happy to have my alone time, and there is essentially zero physical contact or affection, and I know this is a recipe for disaster, but I'm just not ready for it to end finally.

what do you think? Is he getting ready leave? Should I confront him?

11-23-2009, 10:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
Following myGut Registered User Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	I think my H is going to leave me for OW? Help me with the signs! I have suspected for a few (12) months that my H has been having an affair and I've turned a blind eye for various selfish reasons, but this weekend I finally did some digging and here is what I found: 1. He has been involved with a woman since last December. 2. They see each other at least 1-2 times a week. 3. They speak every day and email/text all day. 4. He started seeing a therapist in August. She knows about the therapy and he never told me about it. (I noticed another thread where a woman was upset that her H didn't tell her about his therapy and our stories are very similar) 5. He has started slowly and subtly moving things (his clothes, his books, his electronics, etc.) to our summer home. Now I acknowledge that all these signs point to him leaving me, but he agreed to a family vacation (us and our 4 children aged 18-24yrs) over the xmas holidays. So, if he was leaving me, why would he take a family holiday with me and our kids? Things have not been good in our marriage for a long time (probably a decade) and we've sort of gotten by just putting on a happy face for the outside world. He works a lot, I'm happy to have my alone time, and there is essentially zero physical contact or affection, and I know this is a recipe for disaster, but I'm just not ready for it to end finally. what do you think? Is he getting ready leave? Should I confront him?