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bhappy3 · 06-26-2008, 08:51 AM

Hey dbj... still believe in Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny??

Since this animal ain't answering to your "higher power" then that makes your post void. :P

GA, yup, I used to be jealous as well. I was never cheated on though, at least not that I knew of at the time, and it's not confirmed now either, just a hunch I have. I guess I'm not jealous with my husband when it comes to other women b/c I know know KNOW he's not going anywhere. He does have high morals and it's just not something he would ever do. I am very jealous when it comes to his hobbies though. Like I said, his hunting is "the other woman" to me. But that's b/c she gets all his time and attention and I get to sit back and wait for the sloppy seconds.

I am just trying to think out loud here and sort things out. I've typed and typed and typed in my journal, but that doesn't answer me back. I don't want to "cheat" behind his back. I want his permission to do what I feel I need to do. We've been together 13 years... of course things get dusty and you want to look around at others. But that doesnt' mean I love him any less!

I so tie the hunting together with the sex. I get less sex when he's fully immersed in his hobbies. So why, if he's allowed to neglect me like that can't I just go out and have meaningless sex? He doesn't like to be bothered with me when he's involved. So why can't someone else take the reins while he's so busy?

We saw a counselor for a little bit, until we realized that he wasn't making any difference. But anyway, the counselor put it like this... when my husband plays softball with our daughter, just in the yard, he has to play on her level. When I have sex with my husband, I have to do it on his level. The only freaking problem with that is that my husband then gets to go play softball with his adult friends when he's done playing with our daughter. What do I get to do? I still have to play on his level... forever! bah

This is so frustrating.

06-26-2008, 08:51 AM	#10 (permalink)
bhappy3 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 157	Re: You'll need an open mind for this one... Hey dbj... still believe in Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny?? Since this animal ain't answering to your "higher power" then that makes your post void. :P GA, yup, I used to be jealous as well. I was never cheated on though, at least not that I knew of at the time, and it's not confirmed now either, just a hunch I have. I guess I'm not jealous with my husband when it comes to other women b/c I know know KNOW he's not going anywhere. He does have high morals and it's just not something he would ever do. I am very jealous when it comes to his hobbies though. Like I said, his hunting is "the other woman" to me. But that's b/c she gets all his time and attention and I get to sit back and wait for the sloppy seconds. I am just trying to think out loud here and sort things out. I've typed and typed and typed in my journal, but that doesn't answer me back. I don't want to "cheat" behind his back. I want his permission to do what I feel I need to do. We've been together 13 years... of course things get dusty and you want to look around at others. But that doesnt' mean I love him any less! I so tie the hunting together with the sex. I get less sex when he's fully immersed in his hobbies. So why, if he's allowed to neglect me like that can't I just go out and have meaningless sex? He doesn't like to be bothered with me when he's involved. So why can't someone else take the reins while he's so busy? We saw a counselor for a little bit, until we realized that he wasn't making any difference. But anyway, the counselor put it like this... when my husband plays softball with our daughter, just in the yard, he has to play on her level. When I have sex with my husband, I have to do it on his level. The only freaking problem with that is that my husband then gets to go play softball with his adult friends when he's done playing with our daughter. What do I get to do? I still have to play on his level... forever! bah This is so frustrating. __________________ :