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Originally Posted by Sven
My wife told me all of the details of her affair. Our marriage counsellor thought it was a bad idea. I'm not sure if I agree - being open is important, but knowing that the other guy did stuff to my wife that I've never done kind of bothers me. Knowing that the guy was in the same bed I sleep in every night bothers me.
I guess there's no easy answer, but don't ever NOT tell your spouse something if she wants to know.
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I'm sorry for your pain Sven. That is exactly the kind of thing I don't want my wife to have to experience. Even though our experiences are different, I don't know if her knowing
everything really helps anything. I have to imagine that these images haunt and pain you.
Like I have said, I told her the major facts, and have not lied. I have also taken as many steps as possible (the "OW" is a co-worker) to limit contact, I'm even not going to attend the holiday parties (which I generally look forward to) to assure my wife of my intentions.
I appreciate everyone's feedback here. Being alone in your thoughts with all this going through your head is difficult, it makes you crazy - being able to talk it out, hear other objective opinions helps alot. Thank you.