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Originally Posted by BrokenFrag
Sadly, or unfortunately, or interestingly, my wife thought I was a cocky a-hole when she first met me.  I was full of confidence, knew what I wanted in life, and was happy to broadcast to the world what I thought of myself. We became friends somehow, and she learned how caring, sensitive, and loving I was on the inside. I think that is why she loved me. |
Brokenfrag
You lost your confidence because you were married to a user. Someone who cared only for herself and little for you. Years in that environment will destroy confidence. The more you tried to give the more she took until everything broke down. I will again state there is no conflict between being a nice guy and a confident guy. What is stated in the article and some posts above do not describe a nice guy but a needy one. Needy people by nature suffer from low self confidence. Don’t confuse a guy who opens a door for his girl friend/wife with a self loathing sap. Also don’t confuse a person of self confidence as an egotistical jerk. Nice, stable, caring, sensitive guys finish first with a lot of women and visa versa.