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Amplexor · 11-24-2009, 08:20 AM

Your husband acts as he does because likely he has not forgiven yet. Forgiveness is both divine and difficult. How did he find out, did he discover it or did you come clean?

I agree with mitchzz that if he is unable to move forward after this long then outside professional assistance is needed. There is likely there are underlying feelings or thoughts he has not shared with you.

As far as the sex vs. kissing. Sex is only a physically act to him at this point, not an emotional bonding. There is a difference between f***ing your spouse and making love to them. Kissing you and telling you he loves you is an emotional function.

Finally, how is the rest of your marriage. Communication, decision making, spending time alone as a couple, physical intimacy? Do you function as a married couple or roommates. And do you feel he is keeping the affair as a trump card to continue to punish you?

11-24-2009, 08:20 AM	#11 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Temporary Resident of Earth Lord Only Knows Where Next Posts: 2,471	Re: I Cheated on My Husband... Your husband acts as he does because likely he has not forgiven yet. Forgiveness is both divine and difficult. How did he find out, did he discover it or did you come clean? I agree with mitchzz that if he is unable to move forward after this long then outside professional assistance is needed. There is likely there are underlying feelings or thoughts he has not shared with you. As far as the sex vs. kissing. Sex is only a physically act to him at this point, not an emotional bonding. There is a difference between f***ing your spouse and making love to them. Kissing you and telling you he loves you is an emotional function. Finally, how is the rest of your marriage. Communication, decision making, spending time alone as a couple, physical intimacy? Do you function as a married couple or roommates. And do you feel he is keeping the affair as a trump card to continue to punish you? __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.