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Amplexor · 11-24-2009, 09:07 AM

From your post I cannot determine for sure if this is an EA or not. While secret phone calls are generally an indication of an EA if you have severe "jealousy issues" I could understand a certain amount of cloaked behavior in order to "protect you" or follow his own needs for social engagement. I don't find emailing someone weekly out of line either. His 15 minute 2 or 3 contacts could be read either as an EA or just a friendship. Again if he knows you will be jealous over any outside relationship he will likely minimize exposure.

EA or not, there is a problem as this has caused quite a rift between the two of you to the point you are ready to leave the marriage. I am of faith and must disagree with your husband's view that God will fix it all. He gave us the brains and soul to make decisions, determine right and wrong and choose our own path. I do not believe all is in his hands and predestined. There is a significant problem in your marriage that could derail it. I would suggest the two of you have a discussion on boundaries, his and yours. The conversation needs to be open and understanding of both of your needs and there needs to be some flexibility.

11-24-2009, 09:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Temporary Resident of Earth Lord Only Knows Where Next Posts: 5,597	Re: Another emotional affair? From your post I cannot determine for sure if this is an EA or not. While secret phone calls are generally an indication of an EA if you have severe "jealousy issues" I could understand a certain amount of cloaked behavior in order to "protect you" or follow his own needs for social engagement. I don't find emailing someone weekly out of line either. His 15 minute 2 or 3 contacts could be read either as an EA or just a friendship. Again if he knows you will be jealous over any outside relationship he will likely minimize exposure. EA or not, there is a problem as this has caused quite a rift between the two of you to the point you are ready to leave the marriage. I am of faith and must disagree with your husband's view that God will fix it all. He gave us the brains and soul to make decisions, determine right and wrong and choose our own path. I do not believe all is in his hands and predestined. There is a significant problem in your marriage that could derail it. I would suggest the two of you have a discussion on boundaries, his and yours. The conversation needs to be open and understanding of both of your needs and there needs to be some flexibility. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage. "Some of the greatest lessons life has taught me came from my darkest days in it" -Amp