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NightOwl · 11-24-2009, 11:59 AM

I also dealt with the shame and sense of obligation to end my relationship after my partner had an affair. And we are not married, we just live together and have been dating for 5 1/2 years, with a month to month lease so I could have easily left.

What made me stay was knowing that our relationship was in disrepair when this happened, and there was a chance to fix those problems. I'd had nagging worries about him since we met - his ADHD was untreated and I suspected it was controlling his life more than he realized. Well, now he is on medication, we are in therapy, and things are already better after 2 months than they have been in years. Of course the pain of the A still lingers, and the crazy OW is still trying to rope him back in, which is unfortunate to deal with to say the least. But I do feel like we have a fresh start and the type of relationship I'd always hoped for but never quite got.

I think the only person who can decide if a relationship is worth saving is someone in the relationship.

11-24-2009, 11:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
NightOwl Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 44	Re: Childless marriages worth saving,too? I also dealt with the shame and sense of obligation to end my relationship after my partner had an affair. And we are not married, we just live together and have been dating for 5 1/2 years, with a month to month lease so I could have easily left. What made me stay was knowing that our relationship was in disrepair when this happened, and there was a chance to fix those problems. I'd had nagging worries about him since we met - his ADHD was untreated and I suspected it was controlling his life more than he realized. Well, now he is on medication, we are in therapy, and things are already better after 2 months than they have been in years. Of course the pain of the A still lingers, and the crazy OW is still trying to rope him back in, which is unfortunate to deal with to say the least. But I do feel like we have a fresh start and the type of relationship I'd always hoped for but never quite got. I think the only person who can decide if a relationship is worth saving is someone in the relationship.