Ditajr

I don't know why she would lie about wanting to make the marriage work. But I can see someone lying about stopping the drug use. She may think she can hide that a little better from you. That being said, I think the fact that it was a one night stand is somewhat better than it being an ongoing affair with actual emotion involved. Not that it's an excuse, but maybe the coke affected her in a way that made her unable to make good choices. Again, certainly not an excuse. As someone who has cheated, one of the first things you do, is blame the other person. Whether or not it's valid, has to be determined by those involved. In the end, it was her choice to cheat and most likely anything you may or may not have done to her isn't a good reason for her to stray.