| | Worried that my wife is going to give up
My biggest fear is that my wife will just give up, that sheíll just assume that I donít like her, I think sheís a failure at everything, I think sheís a bad mom, I think sheís unattractive, dumb, boring, stupid. What scares me is the realization that I canít control this anymore. I thought I could make her not feel this way, but after trying for a year with no success Iím afraid that I canít.
The smallest thing that I do that makes her feel bad will totally overtake 10 things I do to make her feel good. If the kids are frustrating me and driving me crazy and Iím aggravated, she just assumes that I am directing it towards her. Sheíll just instantly think I donít like her or Iím disappointed in her.
I donít know what else to do. I really really really have tried, I really have. But Iím so frustrated because she hasnít tried. She would kill me if she heard me say that, because she has to do so much and work so hard just to maintain the house and the kids. But what I mean is, she hasnít tried to change herself. I have tried to change myself. I have tried to actively do things to make her feel good about us and herself. But she hasnít.
If she gives up on us, if she stops thinking that thereís any hope of a happy marriage between us, then what happens? I donít want to think about it.