AlwaysAZ

Thank you for your replies and your honesty! I so appreciate it.

Last night, while speaking with my husband, he asked me how I knew he wasn't talking to someone. I told him I did not know. He did not want to tell me. He made a conscience decision not to tell me that he has been speaking with his Physc teacher for a few weeks now. He told me it is none of my business and does not concern me at all and never will. I didn't ask what they talked about.

I was upset because the night before I had asked him about seeing someone on his own and he told me no. He is still not being honest with me. This morning he told me I need to get over what he did and do it now, otherwise he cannot go on with me. It hasn't even been two weeks.

He told me that he will always have his secrets because I do not have to know everything, that what he does in his life is his business.

How can we move forward when I already do not trust him due to what he did......and now this. I am open and honest with him and am trying to work on my own issues, especially the issue with sex. He feels I should 'give it up' no matter what. I'm trying to wrap my mind around that and do just that. As a matter of fact, I did just that this past Saturday. It was very hard for me, considering I don't trust him and I couldn't help but wonder who was on his mind. I didn't say any of these things to him.

He wants us to go to marriage counseling with her because then he will not have to go through the base. His command will know nothing. Excuse me! He has been talking with her for weeks, I do not even know her name, she is his teacher, and he wants me to feel comfortable and trust in a situation like this. Honestly, it feels more of a trap to me. An emotional trap.

I am so open to counseling, for myself and together, because I know I need it. But I am honest about it. He knows when I go and who I will be seeing. Actually, I am seeing a friend of his teacher. She recommended her. I really am beginning to fell set up. Yes, paranoid, I know.