justean

hi marie, right then, your not mad, nuts or going insane.
your perfectly fine, you just have too much going on in your life and your having difficulty separating them.
i am a theatre nurse - assist the surgeon. so i know what you have had done is a major operation. ok it was a few years ago, but your still struggling and with you post partum depression.
you are normal.
you just need to put things into perspective.
your a good wife and mother and most ppl on this forum have the same marriage issues.
just remind yourself , you are no different.
ok so you put on weight, its normal after a hysterectomy and depression.
also research proven for every 10 years we actually put on a stone, this is due to a decreased metabolism. but you can lose weight.
this is what i do. it might not suit you, but its easy.
breakfast for breakfast, breakfast for lunch and a decent t time. dont eat after 8 pm . and no snacks.
what are your hobbies or interests.
i dont go to gym, but at home in my own privacy, i stick on the music full blast and dance to keep in shape. this does not have to be strenous as it probably sounds. get the children to join in.
you need to focus on you at the moment.
your children will be fine, they will come to you because you are their mother. once you see a difference in you, then the rest will see.
you can change mind and body.
you do care about sex, but you need to find that boundary thats comfortable for you.

im going to write this in sections, because i dont want to lose what i have written to you. this is my second go at writin this.