justean

this is a normal rolloercoaster for what you are saying.
you pushed her away b 4 . and its reared up in your face now. it would nt have mattered if it was 5 - 10 - 15 weeks, a year down the line after you done it.
but unfortunately its happening now, she is detaching herself.
she is finding independence. in relationships we all do this, we stop going out, doing things together , flowers, because we stop courting eachother. after a while you settle down and ajust to married life and kids. and then you go into this lull.
i believe on your wifes part. what u did had an effect. but her opportunities to go out and speak to others is now.
what im trying to say is, when you were doing what you were doing, she was comfortable in what she had. things might not have been great. but as a wife you say to yourself, well i look after my hubby and kids ect etc and you accept those responsibilites.
to help you with this one, in terms of words.
my hubby had a one night stand. obviously i hurt badly. but i had not been out for ages.
my brother is single and one night asked me to go out. i went out every week with my brother and then a mate away asked me to go and stay with her so i did. i met through her a bloke. nothing happened. but wht im trying to say is, those opportunities were not there before.
thats why wether is was now or later, i believe it was inevitable. opportunities would happen for her.
with regards to talking. i can even tell you that perspective to. what she means by the talk about nothing, is that your conversation is innocuos.
basically you talk about mundane things, like how was work. have you had a good day.
your conversation is short and repetetive.
now from my point of view , i know my hubby and he does the same things.
doesnt discuss things, i.e going out, the children, finances - simply asking is there n e thing we need to sort for the children, do they need new shoes , clothes. thats what women want.
my hubby tells me about his day, and i dont particularily care. and its because he talks about himself constant. but when it comes to wife and kids he asks short questions , that only instigate short answers.
but thats also a man.
why dont you ask your wife to go out with you. when was the last time you actually paid her attention.
her ex, is obviously giving her attention, regardless of whether its innocent or not.
when hubby and i split. i met the bloke i just told u about. we lived to far from eachother and i had so much fun with him over the phone, regardless of the distance, i got attention. we had txt sex and he told me what he'd do with me. it was a real turn on and it works, even over the phone.
i promise none of it amounted to n e thing.
but it was the fantasy that pushed the boundaries and homelife was simply a different world to get away from.
a tip , start dressing nice, even around the home and put on aftershave, at home.
the trouble is on this, you revert back, but you must try and carry on. when was the last time she saw you pay attention to yourself.
do it now and when she comes home she might not say n e thing, but i bet money she thinks it.
make a start somewhere. now
i do agree with you on the her ex, she should not do that.
but i think she is just being rebellious, showing you what she can do.