draconis

Just a brief I was married once and divorsed but now am in a relationship that has been going great for ten years with nine of those being married. Here is what I see from your post.

1) You and he come from different upbringings, both need to settle in the middle for it to work. IMHO it seems like he does want to meet in the middle.

2) You need to think of what is best for your daughter, you then the marriage. It seems by reading the post you want more then to just play wife. I see nothing wrong with that. My wife is starting at 30 to go for her dr. degree. It works because I ajusted to her schedule forthe overall welfare of the family short ternm and long term.

3) Communication~this is the most important aspect of a relationship. I hear (I am on many forums) people with relationship problems all the time. One key factor is that they don't or never communicate.

My advice~File for the divorse. You normally have plenty of time to think things out. So will he. If you are to get back together have a list of things you want to see different. It maybe he never knew. Tell him how you fell and see if you get the chance if you can actually be happy.

It also sounds to me like he has problems communicating. If you stay together find out what is going on with him.

I wish you the best of luck. I know that the divorse from my first wife was hard to swallow but there are great people out there and if your hubby is the one and things get better great. If not I hope you find your match.

draconis