squirsh2000

First of all, Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. To continue on this ride that I have been explaining to all of you, heres the latest. My wife and I had a counseling session last week and the counselor said point blank that my wife is giving mixed signals to me (see earlier posts about her still staying here at the house, wanting sex, etc.) Well this morning, she said that she wanted to stay , and later she said that she changed her mind, and acknowledges that she cant keep giving me mixed signals. Admittedly, I got upset, because although she has been playing with my emotions (whether intentionally or not) it was very comfortable with her here so much, because I still love her and want her around. I do know, however, that it is probably best for me in the long run if we pull away from each other. I told her that she needs to get the rest of her stuff out of here, and she agreed. I also said that I didnt think we should continue counseling, because for me, it seems very one sided, where I am the one pouring my heart out, taking responsibility for my contributions to the marriage, and she still is very closed off and indifferent. However, she said that she wanted to continue with the counseling. She wants to deal with issues that we had in the marriage, such as an abortion that we had early in our marriage, control issues, etc. And heres the kicker. When I asked her why, she said that she wants a best friend, and a confidant, and she wants it to be me. Now, this isnt the first time she has said something like this. A few weeks ago, i asked her what she felt my good qualities were. Heres what she said. "I know you love me, you have always been a good father, you are compassionate, you are caring, you are supportive, etc." Wouldnt you think these are qualities you would want in your spouse? Anyway, im looking for feedback about the "best friend and Confidant" statement. Why would she want to divorce and still want me as her best friend and confidant? talk about confusing! thoughts?