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Originally Posted by peacefully
I've read that the husbands are "supporting" their wives to feel better, to lose weight, to get out of the house, to make friends, etcetera. This advice is all correct and valid, however, from personal experience it does not work.
I've also seen a lot of advice to pull away from your wives, to make yourself less available, therefore more attractive. I don't understand this?
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The advice I give isn't to "pull away", it's to "become active". At times that activity is going to look like you're pulling away from your wife, simply because you're up and doing something and she might not be following your lead. A lot of that activity is intended to be playful instigation with your wife. You're not "supporting her" (asking her to do something), but "leading her" ("hey I'm going to XYZ want to come?")
I think for many women, depression is based in boredom and loneliness stemming from the interaction they have with their man or lack thereof.
There is a real link between men being active and appearing attractive to women.