needhelp09

I certainly would take my advice with a grain of salt because I have my fair share of relationship problems, too. But, I think I am in a very similar situation as you are with your girlfriend. Like your girlfriend, I have been going through a lot of family drama and a divorce. I aslo have a boyfriend who I have treated very similar to the way she has treated you.

I will tell you why. He smothers me. He pushes himself on me when I have really needed space. He also sends me love notes and calls and texts all the time. I miss you ...is probably texted 40 times on a given day. However, unlike you (I think) I have had serious financial issues with my boyfriend.

But, when I have pushed mine away...I have also had a passive agressive response from him. I think the fact that you asked her to consider how she felt when you were not at the dinner table -- made me realize you are VERY Much like my exboyfriend. I can tell you she is going through a LOT. She just got divorced. That is very painful. VERY painful. It sounds (like me) she jumped into a relationship before she finished grieving her marriage. She may even resent you for being involved at the tail end of her marriage. That is how I feel in my situation. I had told my boyfriend that I needed him to realize I needed time to get over my marriage and he was so scared that I was going to go back to him -- that he just kept preventing it.

It sounds to me like you may have acted in a similar way. I would suggest you back off. But, be careful not to contact her because she may feel lonely (like I have) and come back to you even if she isn't truly ready.

Good luck to you. Just be patient.