scarletblue

We all have our baggage. I don't think anyone had a perfect childhood. At least I've never met anyone who has.

It looks to me like she has a long established pattern of closing herself off when she has problems or stress. I completely understand that as I did the same thing. It can be very easy to put up those walls, and very hard to break them down.

My husband had huge walls up when we first met. After about a year and a half into the relationship, I seriously considered ending it. He'd let me in some, but not all the way. I told him that if he was never going to really let me in, then I just couldn't do it. He asked me to just hang in there with him. I did. The walls are gone and we've been married 5 years, together for 7.

I think that if you love her and want to be with her, that you just have to hang in there. Lots of talking and communicating.....lots! Do whatever you need to do so that you know that you have put 100% into the relationship, so no matter what happens, you will have no regrets. That being said....it leaves you pretty vulnerable.

If she is anything like my husband, then she doesn't want anyone to think they can hurt her. She puts on a strong front for those around her. She hides her vulnerability, pain, emotions....but they are there!

If you are the guy you say you are, then she was missing you on Thanksgiving.