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seeking sanity · 11-27-2009, 11:59 AM

I can tell you from my personal experience as a guy currently going thru a divorce, and 2+ years from initial separation, I've dated, had a few casual relationships where I just havent' wanted to talk to the woman, I'd be numb, trying to sort thru my feelings, in some ways still pining for my old life even when rationally I knew my old life wasn't great. It wasn't the woman I was dating, it was that I had nothing to give to her.

If she's not ready, still mourning, still overwhelmed at times, there isn't much you can do other than be patient and not expect much from her because she just can't give it right now.

The question you need to ask yourself is: Are you willing to wait around, and if so, how long?

11-27-2009, 11:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
seeking sanity Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 171	Re: plz help a man who loves his girlfriend.... I can tell you from my personal experience as a guy currently going thru a divorce, and 2+ years from initial separation, I've dated, had a few casual relationships where I just havent' wanted to talk to the woman, I'd be numb, trying to sort thru my feelings, in some ways still pining for my old life even when rationally I knew my old life wasn't great. It wasn't the woman I was dating, it was that I had nothing to give to her. If she's not ready, still mourning, still overwhelmed at times, there isn't much you can do other than be patient and not expect much from her because she just can't give it right now. The question you need to ask yourself is: Are you willing to wait around, and if so, how long?