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Originally Posted by peacefully
My question in this was why do some spouses want to make themselves more "attractive" to a depressed spouse?
Is that more about getting their needs met? That is an understandable, but selfish priority. It could be the last thing the depressed spouse can deal with.
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It's pretty simple...
Husband does a bunch of things that doesn't excite or interest wife in him. Wife loses attraction for husband. Wife starts wondering why the heck she is doing everything she does for this man she isn't really into anymore. Divorce is a horrible option, but staying isn't good either. Wife gets depressed.
Husband wakes up to himself and realizes he's been destorying his wifes attraction to him. Changes his behavior and acts in ways to interest and excite wife. Wife is disbelieving at first, but then slowly regains interest in her husband. Wife just forgets thoughts about divorce. Wife is happy.
And yes there are many reasons people can become depressed, but if *this* is the reason she is depressed, no amount of therapy and medication will work for her.