Cooper

I guess your hubby found out fantasy isn't all it's cracked up to be. He didn't leave you and your child because he didn't want to be married anymore, he left to be with another woman. Yes? Isn't that where he went? Just look at the facts.

You can't get past it because he still isn't being honest, and he may never be. He and this woman had this fantasy that life together would be better than it was the first time they were a couple. Well it just didn't turn out to be so great so he comes crawling back home begging for his old life back. Sure he's sorry, sure he's remorseful, but is he done with it? He needs to be able to prove his dedication to you daily until your sure he's done. I do wonder why after 18 months this is starting to affect you so much, is he showing signs of being unfaithful? Is he not trying so hard anymore to prove his commitment? Maybe you two just never resolved it in the first place, swept it under the rug, got on with life.

I know a marriage is worth fighting for, and there are people on this site much more forgiving than I so listen to their advise if you want to save it. But he can't say opps, sorry, it didn't work out with the other woman and I want to come home, he needs to earn that right back, and you get to set the rules.

Cooper