ebp123

I've been married just over 4 years. Our trouble is not that I said nothing and expected my husband to read my mind. Our trouble is that I ask for what I want and he can't or won't give it. One big thing I have asked for is that he back me up. I need to know he is in my corner, on my side. If he cares strongly about something, I'm not asking that he change his views. But if he doesn't really care and I do, I want him to be there for me, stand behind me, etc. He says he doesn't expect anyone to stand up for him and he doesn't see why I need that. Isn't that one of the basic things you expect when you get married?

We aren't exactly young either. I'm 36, he's 45. We have 2 kids. But I am so detached from him. I find myself jealous of women who are married to good, strong men. Why can't mine be that? Doesn't he get that if I can't depend on him, I won't want to be intimate with him, I won't feel like being with him or enjoy our time together?