This Sunday, I will be married for 23 years. I am the mother of two teenagers, and I am very busy with work, kids, etc. I found out recently that since May my husband has been talking 20 hours per month with an old college friend. They talk whenever they can get a chance. They haven't seen each other in 28 years, and the phone bills show the constant chatter. This wasn't completely hidden from me, but I wasn't quite introduced either. I will be seeing a marriage counselor on Tuesday. My husband acts like this isn't a big deal--they are just reconnecting. This girl is also married with three children. I think 20 hours a month is to the extreme, and it truly has created stress in our marriage; enough to make me want to end our 23 years together.
