Nanook

HI, I feel for you, my husband also just told me 2 weeks ago he wanted out, and that he is in love with someone else, they have not had sex, but emotionally and hand holding etc etc. I also wish he had ended before cheating.
It has been a tough 2 weeks, be prepared for all kinds of emotions, then one day you seem fine, the next a wreck.
We have 2 young kids 6 and 4, and still need to tell them, that is my dlilema at the moment.
All I can say to you, it seems to be one thing after the next, something always comes up that has to be dealt with etc.
You will not beable to get him off your mind.
I know this is not helping, but I think if you know what to expect, you might handle it a little better.
The best thing you can do, is not to vent any anger at him, rather just come on this site and let rip.
Showing him your emotions does not help at all, it is a waste of time.
It is scary, that is no lie.
Can I ask a personal question, you did not seem very happy in the marriage, why do you want to hold onto that, if he is not willing to give a bit in this marriage then why?
The reason for asking because with me, I realised I was not 100% happy either, but by him breaking it off, it dawned on me, I was angry at how it was done, the cheating etc, I was also scared for my future, scared of being alone.
Do you really believe that your love for this man is genuine, and you can make a very happy marriage?
Do you mind if I ask how old you are?
It is going to be tough, but this site will help, like it has helped me.
Take care