jessi

Nanook, let me first say I'm sorry for your pain and what you are dealing with, you have small children. Mine kids are men now, 20 and 22 I have not yet spoken to them although they both know that things aren't right between us. That will be a tough one we have been a family that does a lot of things together, movies, golfing together we had a great lifestyle together......
You are right about my feelings in this relationship, I really wasn't having my needs met, it was like 50% and I guess I settled for that for a lot of years, my husband has a lot of good qualities that seem to be the reasons I accepted the lack of connection, he has never been able to have a close connection with me or anyone for that matter he is like a friend you do stuff with, nice but only connected to certain level.
My logical side understand this, but my emotionally side never seems to be in the same place, I'm hurt and angry by all this and I'm disappointed that he was just willing to let things go wrong without trying to fix anything.....It's like he just blocked out any problems went on with his life and he does not seem to have any remorse, it's just business as usually for him.
I'm 53 in good shape, attractive and always been a positive, hopefully person, I take care of everyones needs and I make sure the kids feel important and loved....I tried to understand that he was the type of person he was but it was very hard many times when I felt the disconnect....I'm having difficulty letting go and I'm not sure why, My feelings are all over the place, maybe I will visit the site often as I am finding it hard to deal with my anger towards him and the OW....can't believe this how it will end with this kind of disrespectful act....I know it was over logically but I didn't expect this, it's hurtful enough to end a realationship why does this have to be added to it...we had already decided that he wanted out and we were moving towards that, he couldn't just have focused on that and then moved out and had a new relationship. It's like I didn't know him at all, I also know the woman, someone he works with.....she is married as well, her husband has kicked her out already, she has 2 kids as well, one went with her the other stayed with the husband, now 2 families are going thru so much pain for what? How do you get over the rambling feelings, the anger, the pain the disappointment......I would love to hear how everyone is coping and understanding how things went so wrong.........I hope today is a better one for you and that you can focus on your little ones, they are a gift and they should be protected at all costs......just like my husband your spouse has made their decisions and they will have to live with all that brings to them......be strong and if you want to post i would love to listen and help if possible.....this is my nature