ssbon18

I am a 21 year old engineering student that recently married my 21 year boyfriend at the beggining of this year. We met in June 07 so we have not know each other for too long. There are lots of ups and downs for us. First off I am hispanic and he is white. There are many differences in the customs that both our families have. The biggest problem that I am fasing at the moment is that he has been in a life crisis because he is unhappy with himself . He will starve himself to loose weight also which I do not like because that just makes him crankier which I try to tell him. Also he works at night and I work during the day during summer or go to school during the day. He sees me as being successful because I make more money than him even though I just have a internship which is obvious because of my education so far. He has 2 years of college done but does not know what he wants to be nor wants to go to school right now. I have and get along much more with my family than he does with him. He tells me how all this is not my fault or anything but still he feels that hurts him sometimes. Everytime we fight I am the one that most of the times try to solution the argument as calmly as posible and even then is it hard to make him talk to me. Alot of the times it takes me alot of begging to make him talk to me because he just ignores me or starts arguing at the point that he yells when there is no need to. He sees all the wrong he is doing and keeps telling me that he will work on them yet the next time we fight again he goes back to his customs. I dont know what to do anymore. I am giving more than I should in this relationship and I know he loves me as well but his stuborn temperament really affects our happiness. Also his depression bout how he is unhappy with his life depreses me to. All he wants to do is lay in bed all day and not eat or come out of the room. I try to get him out even if its to play with our dog because I know that it makes a small difference when he is in his moods. I talk to him alot and have changed myself alot for the better of both because I wasnt a great wife when we got in arguments but have worked through it. When we get in arguments he even starts grabbing his stuff and tries to leave even though i do everything posible to make him talk to me. Alot of the times it is me that brings up a argument but then i realize it and try to solve them also. i told him how he hurts me every time he says he is leaving for good. If he does leave he has no family or friends other than me close that will be there for him. i will and have always been there for him and I think that also helps him stay . I feel he uses the ima leave against me but in the back of his mind he knows he would have no where to go. The money also he wouldnt have. I had lots of money but with his loans and what not that I ended up paying I am as broke. We both have the same banks now as well and have improved in our money management but have so much loans out that we use our checks to pay them every month. What can I do to make him a better husband ? i would like to hear others input to this because Ive tried everything that I can and yet still the same problem.