33_momma_of4

If he understand and says he 'gets it', then you have to make sure he does. I agree.....when he makes plans for something. Make sure you quickly put in your plans and allow for the same time away. I think that will drive home your point more than anything. Especially helping him 'get it'! This will do one of two things...either allow both much needed alone time. Or he'll stop making so many plans if he knows that means that many hours alone with baby next time. And don't be afraid to ask him to help! My husband and I trade bath nights and bedtime rituals(book reading and laying down with our 4 yr old until she falls asleep) I got tired of just doing it and him not volunteering to help. One night I just said "your turn, I did it the last 4 nights in a row) and it stuck. lol

My husband is a BIG ol' baby when it comes to anything he can complain about. But he will help out when I ask w/o complaining. I've just learned with men. They don't 'get it' unless you point it out to them to make them understand better. They see things from a totally different point of view than woman. (I'm not man bashing, just stating a truth I think we all agree with)