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Terra · 11-29-2009, 06:58 PM

Some relationships from our past or present can be distructive or toxic to our married relationship. IMHO the couple needs to decide together whom they are going to remain friends, that is, if it becomes an issue between the couple. An outside friendship should not be at one or the other spouses expense. Sure maybe "Dr betrayed" has her own vulnerabilities that she needs to work on, but her husband needs to respect her feelings and support her and not allow this so-called friend to interfere with his relationship with Dr betrayed. The marriage union needs to be actively protected.
Quotes from "Boundaries in Marriage":
"A marriage is only as stong as what it costs to protect it." "A triagulation occurs when a spouse brings in a thrid party for unhealthy reasons." "Triangulation betrays trust and fractures unions." "a gossip separates close friends" "A wife who has trouble learning to trust others, for example, will have great difficulty investing in her husband if he is kinder to other people than to her or if he discusses with friends what she shares in private with him."

11-29-2009, 06:58 PM	#28 (permalink)
Terra Registered User Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 18	Re: do you think husband has the right to share our "private" incidents with his guys Some relationships from our past or present can be distructive or toxic to our married relationship. IMHO the couple needs to decide together whom they are going to remain friends, that is, if it becomes an issue between the couple. An outside friendship should not be at one or the other spouses expense. Sure maybe "Dr betrayed" has her own vulnerabilities that she needs to work on, but her husband needs to respect her feelings and support her and not allow this so-called friend to interfere with his relationship with Dr betrayed. The marriage union needs to be actively protected. Quotes from "Boundaries in Marriage": "A marriage is only as stong as what it costs to protect it." "A triagulation occurs when a spouse brings in a thrid party for unhealthy reasons." "Triangulation betrays trust and fractures unions." "a gossip separates close friends" "A wife who has trouble learning to trust others, for example, will have great difficulty investing in her husband if he is kinder to other people than to her or if he discusses with friends what she shares in private with him."