jsniceguy

OK - I will give you the short version of our story and then highlight the part that truly confuses me. My wife and i have been having some issues and about 6 months ago I was given the information that she was unhappy. I had truly never noted this before but had noticed that she became much crabbier when our third child came along (they are now 7, 5, 3). When we fight it is about little things or some lies that she has taken to telling me but nothing substantial. When confronted with the conversation about divorce last week we both cooled off and decided that we really needed to think and have a good heart to heart discussion. Well her answer to what the actual problem is "She is not cut out for the suburban mother lifestyle and while loving our children and me very much she is very unhappy." This is the part that truly confuses me because I knew the hectic life comes with multiple children (I am one of 6) but she being an only child can't handle the pressure and stress and hecticness. We are talking divorce because she needs some days free of "her current life" assuming that we would go with 50% placement. As someone that believes he can fix anything or has a great ability to see all sides of a situation I am dumbfounded by this one.... How can someone say they love you and the entire family but want to give it up??? What I really need is to understand from someone else that may have had similar feelings or help me to come up with ways to help her get through and past this. I lover her very much and the last thing I want is for our marriage to end - in addition I want to see my kids everyday not only 4 days a week or less....