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Ash22 · 11-30-2009, 04:56 PM

I'm a firm believer in no contact for a few reasons. First of all it allows you to give yourself time and space to really pinpoint what went wrong in the marriage, then it gives you time to figure out what YOU did wrong and YOU can then fix YOU. Remember you can't change her, you can only change you.

Also by not contacting the other it lets them get a wake up call. If she is maybe trying to prove her independence to you, or to stir something up, if you show her that whatever she does just rolls off your back in a sense, it kinda shows her that you aren't down to play games. ( The whole number thing...I don't know really what she was trying to do there, expect either get some attention or start some drama).

And lastly by no contact you can actually think about whether or not this person is even worth it. For example if you find out a week from now that you is going out every night talking to him doing this etc etc...is that really someone you want in your life?

If you can't have peace in your own house...where will you?

11-30-2009, 04:56 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ash22 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 366	Re: Trying the no contact separation I'm a firm believer in no contact for a few reasons. First of all it allows you to give yourself time and space to really pinpoint what went wrong in the marriage, then it gives you time to figure out what YOU did wrong and YOU can then fix YOU. Remember you can't change her, you can only change you. Also by not contacting the other it lets them get a wake up call. If she is maybe trying to prove her independence to you, or to stir something up, if you show her that whatever she does just rolls off your back in a sense, it kinda shows her that you aren't down to play games. ( The whole number thing...I don't know really what she was trying to do there, expect either get some attention or start some drama). And lastly by no contact you can actually think about whether or not this person is even worth it. For example if you find out a week from now that you is going out every night talking to him doing this etc etc...is that really someone you want in your life? If you can't have peace in your own house...where will you?