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My fear is that if I become the man I really want to be, and work on the things I need to work on, then I won’t want her to come back unless she is ready to commit all she has to making our marriage and family work the way they should.
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This means you are healing, and quite frankly, you shouldn't want anything less than a partner that is committed to working
with you, not against you. You're being aware of what she needs to do, and the belief that she won't do it means that you recognize the truth for what it is - but you aren't ready to embrace it. Consequently, we cling to what we know, as painful, dysfunctional and hurtful as it may be.
There will come a time when you choose not to make yourself sad. There will also come a time when you will be dumbfounded that you clung on as long as you did - before letting go and discovering how strong you truly are.