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lastinline · 11-30-2009, 08:52 PM

david_h15, frankly it sounds like she's putting very little into your relationship, so it's not surprising she's getting so little from it in return. It's that whole sowing and reaping thing.

I am of the belief that the moment you stop investing your time, heart, and energy into your spouse that's the moment you begin to drift apart. It's not what you get as much as what you give that keeps you invested in a healthy relationship. If both partners take this approach, everyone's needs are met. That's why courting works so well.

You could be the be the best husband on the planet and do all of "the little things" for her, but until she starts giving back, she won't feel connected to you. That's what makes this situation such a b*tch, she doesn't feel connected so she doesn't give, because she doesn't give she can't feel connected. It's that I need experience to get a job thing, but how do I get experience if I don't have a job. Sorry david_h15, I think I understand the problem, I just don't know what the solution is. LIL

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lastinline Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: In a house, or in a clinic. Posts: 457	Re: Is it possible to get the emotional connection back? david_h15, frankly it sounds like she's putting very little into your relationship, so it's not surprising she's getting so little from it in return. It's that whole sowing and reaping thing. I am of the belief that the moment you stop investing your time, heart, and energy into your spouse that's the moment you begin to drift apart. It's not what you get as much as what you give that keeps you invested in a healthy relationship. If both partners take this approach, everyone's needs are met. That's why courting works so well. You could be the be the best husband on the planet and do all of "the little things" for her, but until she starts giving back, she won't feel connected to you. That's what makes this situation such a b*tch, she doesn't feel connected so she doesn't give, because she doesn't give she can't feel connected. It's that I need experience to get a job thing, but how do I get experience if I don't have a job. Sorry david_h15, I think I understand the problem, I just don't know what the solution is. LIL