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Ash22 · 12-01-2009, 09:58 AM

I can't answer your question is this a bad idea? only because it is your decision. What I can tell you is that before you do anything you should decided why you are writing it.

A few weeks ago or so, I had been debating about writing my H a letter, detailing my angry, how I felt, what I wanted, etc. And a lot of people on here posted that I should go for it, that I should write him the letter. However I think it was CW who said she was all for me writing the letter but for the right reasons.

I thought about that for a few days...and my reason for writing the letter? Yes part of it would be to get some anger off my chest, but the majority of the reason? About 90% of the reason? Would be another effort to wake him up and get us back together. I would have been hoping that that letter would bring us back.

But you and I can't wake them up SS. Thats on them! No matter what we do if they aren't ready, or don't want it...guess what they aren't ready.

So if your doing this because you want answers, closure, by all means do it. But if you are doing this to "wake her up", the answer or the confusion as wren stated might even leave you in a worse state.

Whatever you decide we will all be here for you.

12-01-2009, 09:58 AM	#6 (permalink)
Ash22 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 366	Re: Is this a bad idea? I can't answer your question is this a bad idea? only because it is your decision. What I can tell you is that before you do anything you should decided why you are writing it. A few weeks ago or so, I had been debating about writing my H a letter, detailing my angry, how I felt, what I wanted, etc. And a lot of people on here posted that I should go for it, that I should write him the letter. However I think it was CW who said she was all for me writing the letter but for the right reasons. I thought about that for a few days...and my reason for writing the letter? Yes part of it would be to get some anger off my chest, but the majority of the reason? About 90% of the reason? Would be another effort to wake him up and get us back together. I would have been hoping that that letter would bring us back. But you and I can't wake them up SS. Thats on them! No matter what we do if they aren't ready, or don't want it...guess what they aren't ready. So if your doing this because you want answers, closure, by all means do it. But if you are doing this to "wake her up", the answer or the confusion as wren stated might even leave you in a worse state. Whatever you decide we will all be here for you.