draconis

My first consern would be the communication issue. If you can talk about anything then you can solve most problems. My wife and I work opposite shifts to take care of the family of six. We don't have a lot of time we can spend together but we have exceptional communications. I always know what is going on in her life and she in mine. We talk about our general days and what we want to happen.

Second is with pressing little time we need to make the most of the time we have thus we have a high percent of quaility time.

Third after the four kids we still have time for romance and passion. It is an important glue that holds us together.

Fourth don't worry about your figure. It can come back in time and he needs to know that the beauty that is in you needs to be seen. If he had to gain the 40-60 pounds you did how fast could he whip himself back into shape?

best wishes.

draconis