charliebond

Thank you bigbadwolf; i appreciate your input and point of view.

to answer a few of your questions...I guess there is the possibility that she resents me. That would explain her frequent reaction to most confrontations (at any level).

As far as I can tell there is not much mothering going on; emotionally or otherwise. I tend to do most household chores, work our budget, and am a successful business owner. I make sure I'm paying attention to her, and pamper her. I was definitely raised in the old school of treating a lady as a lady should be treated; and work hard at being a gentleman.

But you make a good point. When I was abusing (alcohol) I was an emotional wreck... there may be some unresolved issues underlying there.

To be honest she has always struggled with anger and I know it's her fall back when she doesn't know what else to do or feel... so I also think that there is something else than what I'm hearing.

I really hope I'm just imagining and that everything will get better. I'm willing to put in the elbow grease. But lately (as of the last few weeks) she has drawn herself further away from me (emotionally).