827Aug

My husband and I have been separated since April and have been seeing a counselor together. Over the past 18 months I have found a lot of evidence that he has been seeing other women. I have confronted him with all of the evidence. And each time he is confronted, he denies, denies, denies. In addition, he lies, lies, lies....to try to cover everything up. So, yesterday I finally get a piece of evidence that he can't deny. Now he wants to only discuss it at the counseling session.

While going thru our store mail yesterday, I spotted a card in a pink envelope. Without noticing any details, I opened the envelope. That really ruined my day. The card was to my husband from a woman. It was a thank you card. However, it had a handwritten note which said "I have SUCH fun with you, xxxx." It was signed by her. Underneath her name she put "XO". Also, enclosed inside the envelope, was a quotation from a small calendar page. The quotation read "Nature is free in a way we can only strive to attain". After looking at the name on the card, I remembered something else. Back in May my husband pulled a background report on this person. I found the report because it was accidently sent to our joint e-mail address. I asked about that at the time, and he denied and lied again--he lies so much; I've even forgotten what the creative story was that time. I guess I shouldn't be surprised; but I thought things were really getting better between us. What is bothering me most is the fact that he is dating women while we are separated and going to counseling. How is counseling going to help when he is seeing other women?! Furthmore, counseling was his idea!