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827Aug · 06-29-2008, 08:50 AM

Hi jrod322!

I think I can relate to your problem but from the other side. Some parts of your post could have been written by my husband. It's unfortunate that counseling wasn't helpful for you and your wife. We have been going to counseling and I'm starting to understand why I get so agitated. My husband is so passive about important things and not so about trivial things. I don't know at the times I have been "bitten" by things that he chose to ignore. That brings stress and resentment in to play. The more stress I have, the more tense I become. As the stress piles up, it gets too great for me to cope with--until I explode. That being said, I try to have a "time out" before I lose control. And as the counselor has suggested, my husband needs to quit causing stress. You wife is probably under more stress now that you have a baby too.

Look at medical reasons too. Although I'm not diabetic, I have a problem with my body using insulin properly. When that gets out of control, I have a hard time controling my emotions. I've dealt with this problem for years and I can see when I need to adjust my medication and/or diet.

I hope this helps. Just for the record, I think being total opposites can work in a marriage. Sometimes it can definately be beneficial. It worked for 20 years in our marriage.

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827Aug Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Southern USA Posts: 258	Re: Verbal Abuse Hi jrod322! I think I can relate to your problem but from the other side. Some parts of your post could have been written by my husband. It's unfortunate that counseling wasn't helpful for you and your wife. We have been going to counseling and I'm starting to understand why I get so agitated. My husband is so passive about important things and not so about trivial things. I don't know at the times I have been "bitten" by things that he chose to ignore. That brings stress and resentment in to play. The more stress I have, the more tense I become. As the stress piles up, it gets too great for me to cope with--until I explode. That being said, I try to have a "time out" before I lose control. And as the counselor has suggested, my husband needs to quit causing stress. You wife is probably under more stress now that you have a baby too. Look at medical reasons too. Although I'm not diabetic, I have a problem with my body using insulin properly. When that gets out of control, I have a hard time controling my emotions. I've dealt with this problem for years and I can see when I need to adjust my medication and/or diet. I hope this helps. Just for the record, I think being total opposites can work in a marriage. Sometimes it can definately be beneficial. It worked for 20 years in our marriage.