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Moonlight · 06-29-2008, 02:13 PM

Thanks, Cao428.

Last night we talked about the distance between us again. He came into the bedroom to say goodnight and saw I was sad looking so he did cutesy stuff and then asked me whats wrong. I told him we've already talked about it. But then he asked again, and I told him how alone Ive felt and how Im losing my best friend, ( the other time we talked I said I FEEL LIKE Im losing my best friend). So then I said that if he wanted to break up with me then I should know and if he wanted to start talking to other people, let me know. He said if he wanted to break up he would have done it, and then he said something like WHO SAID I WAS TALKING TO ANYONE ELSE, (I cant remember exactly, and I should since this was key) but it wasnt said in a way like "are you accusing me of this" it was more "im not talking to anyone else.period" WHAT A LIE.

So then I told him sorry, and that Im trying to give him his space like he wants and I said well Im still here for you if you need to talk.

Basically I know that he wants to be left alone, and Im giving him that space but I needed to clarify where we stood. So when I move away he doesnt really want to talk to me, his fam, or anyone ( except the woman prob). he said hed call if he wants to talk.

He did this before, but last time I wasnt living with him before hand. There was no other woman last time and he moved back home.

Funny thing is, the way he snaps sometimes its like hes trying to blame me or find any little thing to put the hurt on. I think he feels guilt, I hope..

So he told me that I dont need to be sorry for crying. He went out in the early morning for an hour last night,I know he talked to her for 20 minutes. I read someone say on here, once the trust is broken the snooping is validated or is deserved because they lost that trust.Thats where Im at.

I told him to let me know when hes back and that I love him, he said he loved me and left in a huff, he came back said "im back" and left the room. this morning he came in and kissed me on my head while I was asleep. So I dont know what to do. I know he still loves me, and this going back and forth stuff is annoying. Im supposed to leave him alone but he does the cutesy stuff or kisses. He hasnt kissed me while I was sleeping in a little while.

I dont know. I guess Im going to wait this out until we move and go from there I guess. Any thoughts?

Also, Im not sorry for showing my emotions, I was using that to see what he would say, and Im glad he said not to be, thats exactly what he should have said. And he needs to know how this is hurting me.

Sometimes I think that when Im being nurturing and nice that he reacts better off of it, and I hope that he realizes how great it is to be with me. If I didnt do anything for him and REALLY left him alone he would be in a worse mood and make it easier to forget about us.I still want this to workout, but the trust is gone. I dont like this hanging on by a thread thing, where maybe he'll call when we are separated. He wants us to have space like that, but still I guess want the comfort of me, probably his stand by, you know?
He wants his cake and to eat it too.

06-29-2008, 02:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
Moonlight Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 8	Re: Confirmed Affair Thanks, Cao428. Last night we talked about the distance between us again. He came into the bedroom to say goodnight and saw I was sad looking so he did cutesy stuff and then asked me whats wrong. I told him we've already talked about it. But then he asked again, and I told him how alone Ive felt and how Im losing my best friend, ( the other time we talked I said I FEEL LIKE Im losing my best friend). So then I said that if he wanted to break up with me then I should know and if he wanted to start talking to other people, let me know. He said if he wanted to break up he would have done it, and then he said something like WHO SAID I WAS TALKING TO ANYONE ELSE, (I cant remember exactly, and I should since this was key) but it wasnt said in a way like "are you accusing me of this" it was more "im not talking to anyone else.period" WHAT A LIE. So then I told him sorry, and that Im trying to give him his space like he wants and I said well Im still here for you if you need to talk. Basically I know that he wants to be left alone, and Im giving him that space but I needed to clarify where we stood. So when I move away he doesnt really want to talk to me, his fam, or anyone ( except the woman prob). he said hed call if he wants to talk. He did this before, but last time I wasnt living with him before hand. There was no other woman last time and he moved back home. Funny thing is, the way he snaps sometimes its like hes trying to blame me or find any little thing to put the hurt on. I think he feels guilt, I hope.. So he told me that I dont need to be sorry for crying. He went out in the early morning for an hour last night,I know he talked to her for 20 minutes. I read someone say on here, once the trust is broken the snooping is validated or is deserved because they lost that trust.Thats where Im at. I told him to let me know when hes back and that I love him, he said he loved me and left in a huff, he came back said "im back" and left the room. this morning he came in and kissed me on my head while I was asleep. So I dont know what to do. I know he still loves me, and this going back and forth stuff is annoying. Im supposed to leave him alone but he does the cutesy stuff or kisses. He hasnt kissed me while I was sleeping in a little while. I dont know. I guess Im going to wait this out until we move and go from there I guess. Any thoughts? Also, Im not sorry for showing my emotions, I was using that to see what he would say, and Im glad he said not to be, thats exactly what he should have said. And he needs to know how this is hurting me. Sometimes I think that when Im being nurturing and nice that he reacts better off of it, and I hope that he realizes how great it is to be with me. If I didnt do anything for him and REALLY left him alone he would be in a worse mood and make it easier to forget about us.I still want this to workout, but the trust is gone. I dont like this hanging on by a thread thing, where maybe he'll call when we are separated. He wants us to have space like that, but still I guess want the comfort of me, probably his stand by, you know? He wants his cake and to eat it too.