Often you can tell something important about a person simply from their screen name.
If your wife is evaluating/flirting with/having EA or possible PA with other men then the issue is NOT a suburban lifestyle. At least not exactly.
My guess is that she cannot handle a totally civilized husband.
If she has been giving you wild monkey sex all along including the last year - then ignore the rest of this. If however your sex life has steadily faded - maybe even died then read on...
You need to find a way to regain or build from scratch an "edge." Because your future relationships will be much happier and more sexual if you have that. Many women simply cannot tolerate a lack of a full spectrum emotional relationship.
My wife wants to experience a little bit of lots of love and kindness - spiced up with some level of conflict - genuine raw anger and dominant male behavior. I don't think she is that rare I simply think she is more blatant about what she wants then most women.
I have no idea why she likes this - I simply know that playing rough makes her love me more and lust after me more. And playing sweet and gentle is great as long as that isn't the only thing I do.
Find a guy friend who understands how this works - including the alpha bedroom behavior like spanking and dominant talking. And have him teach you the rules of the road because it is sad to lose a marriage over a lack of pop....
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Originally Posted by jsniceguy
Thanks CW - She currently works 4 days a week and cannot drop any days there which does add to her feelings I am sure. As far as the other things, I am a very hands on helper and have also suggested a maid or other things to assist as it would be far cheaper than a divorce but she refuses.
Thank you also Atholk - You are correct on the earlier stuff and at this point I am trying very hard to keep a positive attitude but do share your thoughts that this is a bullsh*t answer and something I don't think is possible. That is why I am looking for feedback from others and truly want this to work out so I will hold onto anything right now. But trust me I am grounded and have a complete understanding of myself, what I would have to if we were to end it and have mentally prepared myself for an end if that occurred.
All feedback is excellent as this thing needs to be thought through from every angle
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