Having a hard time myself today. We had a good weekend but she is still very guarded and intimacy is still lacking. My biggest issue is that I don't know how much of her distance is being caused by the EA, her depression or my past "mistakes". Compared to both of your husbands I think I'm a saint
however I know I'm not perfect. The question is how much blame do I take? There is no doubt that there are some things that she told me were important that I didn't do enough to change or fix however I feel like the walls she put up are a bit extreme.