hitrockbottom

This seems to be where I am stuck....

I have opened myself up.
I offered up my journal.
I tell her where I am going...now she says she doesn't want me to do that...but I'm going to continue to show her that I want to.
I cut out the friends that were influencing me.
I quit drinking (mainly for myself also)
I got counseling...which I talk to her about
I'm not going out every night anymore.
I ask her to come where ever I go...she hasn't yet
I've started fixing up around the house.
I still respect her wishes as far as not sleeping in the same room goes.
I leave my phone in the open and when I get a text I immediately tell her who it is(same with phone calls)

It doesn't seem like I am getting through. She says that she doesn't want to check my emails, text, she actually refuses to answer my phone calls now.
She says she still doesn't trust me.
She says she respects me as a friend for the changes I have made but doesn't know how to trust me.


So what do I do?
I'm sick of sleeping in the basement. I haven't as much as kissed my wife since mothers day. She won't hold my hand. Yesterday she said she didn't want to hug me because she didn't want me to expect them. WTF?
What am I suppose to do?
Or is it too soon to tell?

I think I need to make a more impacting impression. I have a ring that I have had since I was 14yrs old, I've never taken it off. It was the first present/birthday my dad attended. It means the world to me. So I think I am going to offer it to her on a necklace. Tell her that I don't know how else to regain her trust so as a sacrifice of my love and a show of trust toward her I want her to hold onto the ring until she is ready/comfortable around me. I won't take it back until she is ready to work on our relationship. In the mean time she has a piece of me. That way every day she is reminded of what I am willing to do for her.