BlueCreek

If he is depressed, he will need to come up with things that make him happy, so good ideas. However, the disconnect between the two of you will not be solved through that. You are already on the right track. Dates, lots of them, regardless of the babysitter cost, at least once a week. Definitely plan for some time every single night after the kids go to bed just for the two of you. I do not think you two need a counselor yet. He has opened up with you some, he will some more, and you yourself are committed. You need to keep getting him opened up though. Tell him you will listen openly and honestly to anything he wants to say and needs to feel. Say you won't judge any of his emotions but will use them to help both of you figure out how to grow your marriage. Just let him know you want him to be happy and are willing to do whatever that will take for both of your sakes, but that you are not a mind reader and need him to tell you what he really needs.