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DeniseK · 12-05-2009, 09:52 AM

Maybe some people are just mean and selfish. Why do we want to be with someone like that? I have had to ask myself this question over and over again.

I"m sorry for what you are going through. But sometimes one person decides that they just don't want it anymore.....I know from experience that nothing you can do will fix that person. Let em go. Get as much time with your kids as you can, because if she doesn't want them, they are better off with you.

I have 3 boys. 6, 8 and 15. I am a single mother now, thanks to my stupid ex who remarried before the ink was dry on our divorce papers. He didnt' want to be a daddy or husband .....I did it all. Housework, yard work, kids ...kids school and extra curricular activities...worked, cooked, anything he needed too. And I took care of all the bills while he played playstation and complained of being tired.

My point is.....he just checked out of reality. Life is hectic. Being a parent is a thankless job that has few rewards and a lot of heartache. "I love you mommy" Are the greatest words I ever heard and that makes it beyond worth the stress and fatigue and heartache. IF your wife has checked out.....let her go. It's not easy....it hurts......I feel dead inside 90% of the time. I question what more I could have done.

There are good men and women out there. Just ask yourself....."Why do I love someone who can say they just want to walk away from it all? "

NO one loves their spouse 24\7 forever. Eventually it takes work and sacrifice to make a marriage work....it takes a desire to do so. You have that.....but it sounds like she doesn't.

I am so sorry for your suffering. I hate for anyone to go through this....and in the end, after all the advice....it's your choice. Do whatever you can stand to do. iF that is hang in there, then do it. If it is walk away and slam it to her....then do that.

Good luck.

12-05-2009, 09:52 AM	#15 (permalink)
DeniseK Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: north Ga. Posts: 490	Re: Divorce because of Overwhelmed? Need Help? Maybe some people are just mean and selfish. Why do we want to be with someone like that? I have had to ask myself this question over and over again. I"m sorry for what you are going through. But sometimes one person decides that they just don't want it anymore.....I know from experience that nothing you can do will fix that person. Let em go. Get as much time with your kids as you can, because if she doesn't want them, they are better off with you. I have 3 boys. 6, 8 and 15. I am a single mother now, thanks to my stupid ex who remarried before the ink was dry on our divorce papers. He didnt' want to be a daddy or husband .....I did it all. Housework, yard work, kids ...kids school and extra curricular activities...worked, cooked, anything he needed too. And I took care of all the bills while he played playstation and complained of being tired. My point is.....he just checked out of reality. Life is hectic. Being a parent is a thankless job that has few rewards and a lot of heartache. "I love you mommy" Are the greatest words I ever heard and that makes it beyond worth the stress and fatigue and heartache. IF your wife has checked out.....let her go. It's not easy....it hurts......I feel dead inside 90% of the time. I question what more I could have done. There are good men and women out there. Just ask yourself....."Why do I love someone who can say they just want to walk away from it all? " NO one loves their spouse 24\7 forever. Eventually it takes work and sacrifice to make a marriage work....it takes a desire to do so. You have that.....but it sounds like she doesn't. I am so sorry for your suffering. I hate for anyone to go through this....and in the end, after all the advice....it's your choice. Do whatever you can stand to do. iF that is hang in there, then do it. If it is walk away and slam it to her....then do that. Good luck.