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casualty81 · 07-01-2008, 07:34 AM

That's what's even more frustrating. I have told her how I felt. We sat down many times and discussed the problem. I told her that I don't feel loved when she goes almost a month without touching me. I feel rejected, neglected and like she's not into me anymore. She does tell me that she loves me and that she appreciates what I do for her but that my sex drive is just way higher than hers. She knows howimportant it is to me but she just can't take the extra steps to try make things happen.
You know, I may try to approach her to often but I feel its because she doesnt do it enough. When its been a week I get a little antsy and I'll try to see if she wants to. But it seems that the right celestial bodies have to be properly aligned for her to be in the mood.
Like I said, I do go the extra mile to do most of the housework for her to have some time to dedicate to me. I am trying my hardest to be understanding of her side but its as if she doesn't see mine at all. She basically says "Don't bug me and I'll eventually get in the mood with time". I can wait for a while but she could go a month without making any advances. I just figure that I should maybe remind her that I'm still here and waiting and I still want her. Everytime I do its "I'm putting to much pressure on her". So how am I supposed to let her know that I'm in need of some physical closeness then???
I don't know anymore. I feel so sad inside all the time. I just feel like I'm always on the verge of crying because I feel so rejected. Like I'm not attractive enough for her anymore. I even lost almost 25 pounds to try to be more attractive for her. Not that I was overweight. I had small college beer belly. Its neerly all gone now but that hasnt made any difference.

I understand that things change with time, that the spark of the first few months would diminish with time. But it shouldn't be that drastic and not before even being married. I love her so much and I want her to be the mother of my children but how are we gonna even have children if we almost have a sexless relationship (isnt a sexless marriage when it only happens once a month or less) because thats basically what we have. Its sad because I'm only 26.

How else am I supposed to make her understand if I already talk to her about it and she can't see how important it is to me?

07-01-2008, 07:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
casualty81 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 5	Re: Typical I want to and she doesnt That's what's even more frustrating. I have told her how I felt. We sat down many times and discussed the problem. I told her that I don't feel loved when she goes almost a month without touching me. I feel rejected, neglected and like she's not into me anymore. She does tell me that she loves me and that she appreciates what I do for her but that my sex drive is just way higher than hers. She knows howimportant it is to me but she just can't take the extra steps to try make things happen. You know, I may try to approach her to often but I feel its because she doesnt do it enough. When its been a week I get a little antsy and I'll try to see if she wants to. But it seems that the right celestial bodies have to be properly aligned for her to be in the mood. Like I said, I do go the extra mile to do most of the housework for her to have some time to dedicate to me. I am trying my hardest to be understanding of her side but its as if she doesn't see mine at all. She basically says "Don't bug me and I'll eventually get in the mood with time". I can wait for a while but she could go a month without making any advances. I just figure that I should maybe remind her that I'm still here and waiting and I still want her. Everytime I do its "I'm putting to much pressure on her". So how am I supposed to let her know that I'm in need of some physical closeness then??? I don't know anymore. I feel so sad inside all the time. I just feel like I'm always on the verge of crying because I feel so rejected. Like I'm not attractive enough for her anymore. I even lost almost 25 pounds to try to be more attractive for her. Not that I was overweight. I had small college beer belly. Its neerly all gone now but that hasnt made any difference. I understand that things change with time, that the spark of the first few months would diminish with time. But it shouldn't be that drastic and not before even being married. I love her so much and I want her to be the mother of my children but how are we gonna even have children if we almost have a sexless relationship (isnt a sexless marriage when it only happens once a month or less) because thats basically what we have. Its sad because I'm only 26. How else am I supposed to make her understand if I already talk to her about it and she can't see how important it is to me?